Monday, November 14, 2011

Timing

It seems like our timing is a bit off for the foster program at this point. Initially it sounded like we could move pretty quickly and Troy and I do best when we jump right in. Give us time to think more and more about something and we inevitably find another way or change our path.

That being said, we're on the same path, but it may take a little longer to go down. Apparently the social services in our area is swamped and they have now told us they can't even schedule us for our first homestudy visit until after the New Year. I realize the New Year isn't that far away. but it's also that far away to us.

I completed my medical examination this past Friday and that went well, even though I shed some tears. I went to my family doctor's office, but my doctor wasn't available so I agreed to see another doctor in the practice (one I haven't seen before). He started off by telling me he had four adopted children and would love to help with the paperwork and so I thought everything would be great. Then he went off on a spirl about how we were in for devastation and that we should go directly to an adoption agency. When I told him we had one adopted son already from Russia he then proceeded to tell us we should not and probably couldn't ever go back to Russia because the window was closing on Russian adoptions.

At that point, I was trying to keep my eyes opened HUGE so I wouldn't cry and I managed to point to the paperwork and ask him if he would please fill it out. He finally did with quite a few more hurtful comments and I left out of there gripping my documents and hurrying home.

The poor doctor doesn't know it, but he's going to be seeing Troy next week and Troy can't wait to meet him. I made him swear to be nice and go with the goal of getting the paperwork and getting out.

The good news is that once his medical is done, we are completely done with the paperwork portion of the program on our end!

I suppose after that we'll wait. Hurry up and wait. Sound familiar fellow adoptive parents?!?!?!

4 comments:

Debbie said...

Yep, so familiar. We expected to be done in 6 months and it took us 13 months. But in the end we did finish, but it was tough. Hoping your process moves quickly after you get your home study set up.

Be sure to let us know how it goes when Troy sees the doctor.

JennStar said...

My OB gave me some crap like that, too, when I went in for a checkup last year. Some people are very narrow minded and just know the horror stories or have opinions based on their limited knowledge. His loss!

Dede said...

Ugh, I haven't been back to my doctor since my adoption paperwork visit. She made some rude comments about adoption to me and I just didn't get it then and still don't. If they can't say something nice why say anything at all?

Hope things pick up and your wait is not too long.

azgirl said...

Keep your chin up.....We both know how hard it is to wait, usually it seems like it is taking FOREVER! We have heard the same comments..the one we always get is "Why Russia", like we are terrible for going overseas.I feel like how can they judge, when their not willing to help children in need of a loving family! We know that there is someone in Russia waiting to be a part of our family. We are very excited for that day! We have had lots of bumps and set backs but we know it will all be worth it in the end. I believe things happen for a reason. It would be hard for me to believe this 18mo ago (you know our story)but now I wouldn't have it any other way. Hang in there.... It might be a long haul, but when it's over,well worth evey minute!